Stopping Rape: What Men Can Do
All men can play a vital role in rape prevention.
What men can do to help stop rape:
Be aware of language.Words are very powerful, especially when spoken by people with power over others. We live in a society in which words are often used to put women down, where calling a girl or a woman a "bitch," "freak," "whore," "baby," or "dog" is common. Such language sends a message that females are less than fully human. When we see women as inferior, it becomes easier to treat them with less respect, disregard their rights, and ignore their well-being.
Communicate.
Sexual violence often goes hand in hand with poor communication. Our discomfort with talking honestly and openly about sex dramatically raises the risk of rape. By learning effective sexual communication-stating your desires clearly, listening to your partner, and asking when a situation is unclear, you can make sex safer for yourself and others.
Speak up.
You will probably never see a rape in progress, but you will see and hear attitudes and behaviors that degrade women and promote rape. When your best friend tells a joke about rape, say that you do not find it funny. When you read an article that blames a rape survivor for being assaulted, write a letter to the editor. When laws are proposed that limit women's rights, let politicians know that you will not support them. Do anything but remain silent.
Support survivors of rape.
Rape will not be taken seriously until everyone knows how common it is. In the U.S. alone, more than one million women and girls are raped each year (Rape in America, 1992). By learning to sensitively support survivors in their lives, men can help both women and other men feel safer to speak out about being raped and let the world know how serious a problem rape is.
Contribute your time.
Join an organization working to prevent violence against women. Georgia Tech and the Atlanta area have many ways that you can get involved to prevent sexual violence in our community. Go to the "Get Involved" section to find out how you can contribute to help end sexual violence in our community.
Talk with women.
Talk with women about how the risk of being raped affects their daily lives; about how they want to be supported if it has happened to them; about what they think men can do to prevent sexual violence. If you are willing to listen, you can learn a lot from women about the impact of rape and how to stop it. Go to the "Is Sexual Violence a Women's Issue" link to find more about how the risk of rape affects women's daily lives.
Talk with men.
Talk with men about how it feels to be seen as a potential rapist; about the fact that 10-20% of all males will be sexually abused in their lifetimes; about whether they know someone who has been raped. Learn about how sexual violence touches the lives of men and what we can do to stop it.
Organize.
Form your own organization of men focused on stopping sexual violence. Men's anti-rape groups are becoming more and more common around the country, especially on college campuses. If you have the time and the drive, it is a wonderful way to make a difference in your community.
Work to end other oppressions.
Rape feeds off many other forms of prejudice- including racism, homophobia, and religious discrimination. By speaking out against any beliefs and behaviors, including rape, that promote one group of people as superior to another and deny other groups their full humanity, you support everyone's equality.
Information provided by Men Stopping Rape, Washington, DC (202)-265-6530
www.mencanstoprape.org
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